The 20 Somethings...

Brown Girl, 

Spring Break 2018

Those twenty-somethings, the years when you are finally free and trying to find yourself. 

You know who you are, but do you want to slack on improving who you are in the long run? Or are you okay with remaining stagnant? Improvement. That's what most of us want. 

When you first enter your twenties, what do you expect? Maybe nothing because you’re not legal to drink (just yet *wink*) but you should always have short and long term goals. If you do not have goals set for yourself, start. Not tomorrow, but right now.

I can help with a few key pointers but always remember that no one should be making decisions for you.

Key Pointers:

- What do you enjoy doing?

- What is something you always wanted to try?

- Where would you like to live?

- Who are your role models?

- What career are you trying to get into?

- How far are you willing to go for education? (In terms of degrees)

Those are just a few, but it is a little lead way to start.

In your twenties, you should be traveling, learning, dating, NETWORKING, and being open to new things.

Are you wondering why I capitalized "networking"? I capitalized it because your network is your net WORTH. Your networks can be the reason why you get a job, get into school, or be introduced to new opportunities. You do not have to befriend everyone but it is always great to have a good standing relationship with people that you come across. You never know when you'll need someone in the long run, like that girl nobody talked to in class because everyone thought she was weird. That same girl is the CEO of the company that you applied for and now you wish that you spoke to her more.

Advice on Networking: 

- Go to networking events in your area.

- Join group chats like GroupMe and connect with people

- (This one might sound silly) Talk to people on your social media handles

- T R A V E L (The world if you must) There are plenty of opportunities EVERYWHERE, don't stay in just one area.

Dating is something that all people, all ages should do, but really do it in your twenties. You are not truly sure who nor what you like until you have tried dating different people. You may have an idea, but before marriage, you should want to be sure. Many people graduate high school or college with a lover, but that is all they may know. Sometimes, marriages from really young do not last long, because people wonder what it would be like to be with others. My best advice is to wait. 

Ladies, I know we all want that fairytale, but sometimes you have to say "f*#% attachment" and be free. Do not be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone because that will limit you from progression. 

Advice on Dating: 

- Date multiple people

- Try different activities

- Try different food cuisines

- T R A V E L, get that real quality time in

- Speak about goals

- Understand peoples intentions

I've mentioned a lot about traveling, but it is true. Travel. You have to look at it as "one life to live, and I'm going to live it to the fullest". See as much as you can while you are here living, because tomorrow is not promised to us and time does not stand-still for anyone. All we have are our memories and experiences. You should want to make the best out of everything, no matter what it is, because when we are old, our memories keep us at ease. 

Regret less. Take bad experiences and make them into lessons. Take failed relationships and use it to make better choices. Take advantage of what life has to offer.

That job will call you. That man will mature. Your hair will grow and that skin will clear up. Speak all positive things into existence and clear the air from negative. 

So my question for you now is, where are you traveling first Queen?