It's No Pressure Sis

Brownies,

Ever felt like you were being pressured to engage in sexual intercourse with someone? Ever been a victim of just doing it because maybe it will make him like you? I am here to tell you that you are not alone.

We have all been put in this predicament at least once in our lives. Maybe he was a crush, a boyfriend, or maybe even just a friend.

It is ok to say "no" if it isn't something that you don't want to engage in. Here is how you know when to decline:

1. If you are second guessing doing the activity

2. If your heart rate increases

3. If you actually say "no" and he continues to pursue

4. If you did not plan on having sex upon arrival

5. If you don't trust him

Men are horny creatures. Yes, all of them. They think with their penis' sometimes vs. their actual brains. Many other times, they just want to have sex with you to just say they "hit". The bragging behind having sex with you comes from them being knowledgable about someone else wanting you or they just want the bragging rights to show off for they friends.

A lot of things men do is just to please their friends and/or validation vs. actually trying to please the lady. Over the years, women have just become objects. The respect for us has been thrown out of the window. This is why it is good to have morals from here on out, but also, be comfortable with who we choose to be as individuals. We must teach our daughters that no man should be able to determine her worth. She should always know it without a man in her ear to validate it.

If a man wants to stop communicating with you because you did not have sex with him, then imagine if you actually did give the cookie up. If he can ghost you because of the decline, then he would've done it even if y'all were to have sex to begin with. A man will always show you his true intentions, but it is up to you to recognize it ahead of time. Or you know, you can ignore it and put yourself in a messed up predicament to the point it messes with you mentally.

There was a saying around when I was a child "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me," but someway, somehow the words tend to cut the deepest. The double-standard men place on women and that we accept, gives men the power they seek. If we were to take it back, then nothing, as it pertains to slut-shaming, should not hurt us.

There is no pressure sis, especially when it comes to you. You do not have to engage in any activity if it does not sit well with you the first time it crosses your mind. Grown men will whine, not speak to you, or maybe even lie if you decide to not give up your goods. It is ok. Let them show you why they shouldn't be receiving something so precious. You hold the power because pu$$y is power. Being sure of who and when you would like to engage in sex is strength.

Sis, you can be the biggest freak on the planet, but if you DO NOT want to do something, then don't do it. No one has the right to force you to do anything.

Take back your power queen and protect your temple.