Dead-Endz

All friendships are not worth fighting for.

Knowing your worth should be used in all aspects of your life, not just romantic relationships. Your friendships should hold substance. No "clout" chasing, jealousy, nor leaching. A lot of people get on your good side because you can be used as a leverage tool. Those relationships are toxic. At first it seems like they are all for you, but eventually end up burning you in the end.

Friendships should be based on a bond and authenticity, NOT because you have something that they need.

Everyone present in your life should add to you in some sort.

Life is too short to have dead-ends. There are too many people that are envious and hateful. This is the easiest thing to receive from people. But, true love in a platonic way is rare.

You will be surprised at how many "friends" are poisoned with jealousy. It washes over their soul every time you post. It fogs up their mind every time you hit a goal.

The craziest thing is, you can tell who they are if you're good at picking up on energy and patterns! Observe how they watch you, the slick comments, and their competitiveness. Friends do not compete against one another, instead, they glow up together.

Friends?

They're the next runner up when it comes to family.

The people you can text and call without it being an issue. Those who care about your well doing. They listen to you when you call to vent. These are friends. The people who will be there if needed. They're the ones that won't tell your secrets after a petty disagreement.

It's hard to come by.

Coming across people who appreciate you for simply being yourself is one of the best feelings.

Being a good friend to an individual should start with yourself. Everything begins with self. Along the way, you learn. You learn about people, feelings, and mindsets.

The people you keep around should be on the same timing as you. Your circle should reflect you in some sort of way. For every friendship, there is something that connects the two of you. Something that made that magical spark happen.

Sometimes, the spark goes off with the wrong people. These people are usually the ones who eventually pray on your downfall if you seem to be "too good."

(Also, everyone is not your friend. Our mommas have been telling us this since birth.)

The scariest part about being human, is knowing that we are naturally destructive and sometimes mischievous. Another scary fact is knowing that a lot of our mannerisms and characteristics come from the household we're raised in. So, the reason why some people be bitter is because... well... their parents are bitter folk. (Just kidding. Maybe. Maybe not.)

There are people out here that will build a bond so that they can break you. They will learn all of your secrets, put on a fake persona and dedicate time just to plot. Instead of trying to meet you at the top and being inspired from your success, they attempt to pull you down.

Only the strong survives. You can and must remain strong, because you've learned from this blog to always put yourself first. Spread love, but love yourself most. Pick-up on signs and dispose of people that do you no good.

People should want to see you win and prosper, period. But, life just is not that simple and easy! As a people, when it comes to being black, we are not used to having as much. Allow your friends and family to achieve what they can without you being an addition to their battle to the top. The jealousy that plagues us will always be an addition as to why we jeopardize our worth of being the superior people. We are trying to create generational wealth. Something that we fight for still, in 2020.

There will be plenty of relationships you build that will lead to dead-ends and leave you dry.

My advice? Notice it quickly and clip them! Don't ever feel like the bad guy because you have to be the one to dead a situation. This is your life we're talking about, so do what makes you happiest.